Frequently Asked Question About Me:
Who is Delia?
You can read more on my About Me page. The short version: I’m a 30-something, stay-at-home mom of 5 kids. I think the DVR is the best invention ever and I’m pretty sure I saw Elvis shopping at H&M when we were in Florida. I love sweet tea, Five Guys bacon cheeseburgers, any kind of cake, warm sunshine days, Margaritas, scary movies, and long walks on the beach. Suddenly I feel like I’m filling out an online dating profile….
How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
Awkward, Fun, and Slightly Delusional. Oh, that’s four words. I guess we can add rule-breaker to the list.
What’s your biggest pet peeve?
Only one?! But I have so many. One of my biggies is people who are judgmental, rude, and think they are better than everyone else. Oh, and the people who leave one square of toilet paper on the holder and don’t bother to grab a new roll. Those people suck.
Do you have any strange fears?
If you’re looking for odd neurosis’ and strange phobias, you have come to the right place. I have a long-standing phobia of Bobbleheads. I know. I should be medicated. I also possess an unhealthy fear of spiders, heights, and any body of water where I can’t see the bottom. Again, I should be medicated. The last one is not my fault, Matt is obsessed with that show River Monsters.
What is your favorite Starbucks drink?
I am a Venti Pumpkin Spice Frappuccino with whip all the way, baby. That’s my go-to drink at Starbucks in the Fall and Winter, although I’m also partial to the Chai Frappuccino and the Caramel Apple Spice. Great…now I want Starbucks.
What’s your comfort food?
French fries are at the top of the list. I love french fries in a very unhealthy, co-dependant, kind of way. I can feel my arteries clogging as I type.
You wrote about a miscarriage, have you had more than one?
I have had 5 miscarriages including the loss of twins in the second trimester. I’ve also had numerous chemical pregnancies. My uterus is kind of a snob, she causes problems on the regular. We’re not on speaking terms anymore.
Do you still suffer from PPD and Anxiety?
I am the very picture of stable mental health. What?! Stop laughing. While I no longer suffer from postpartum depression, I know that I am predisposed to depression in general and I keep a very close watch on my mood cycles. I am currently unmedicated….hey wait, where are you going?…..I am still cursed with an unhealthy level of anxiety, which I deal with by obsessing about things and driving the people in my life crazy. The lingering side effect from my most recent battle with PPD & Anxiety is insomnia. I watch a lot of infomercials at 2am. I almost bought a snuggie.
What’s your favorite place to shop for clothes for yourself?
I’m not all that picky and I’m not a girly girl. I find pieces I love in many different places including H&M, Kohl’s, Target, LOFT, Ann Taylor, J.Crew, Old Navy….You can see some of my outfit combinations in the Mom Style section.
What’s your favorite movie?
My favorite all time movie ever is Steel Magnolias. I big pink puffy heart that movie and poor Matt has been subjected to it so many times that he can probably quote my favorite scenes. He could probably act them out with me….Hmmmmm….I like that idea. I also love Twister and Pitch Perfect.
What’s your worst character flaw?
I’m outspoken. I’ve learned to curb this impulse slightly as I’ve gotten older but in the past the lack of a filter between my brain and my mouth has definitely gotten me in trouble.
How do you get “me time” with such a big family?
I play a special version of the childhood favorite ‘Hide and Seek’ with my kids. They hide and I don’t look. That’s good for at least 10 minutes. When it’s my turn, I hide in the back of my dark closet where I’ve convinced the kids that a monster lives. That buys me another 10 minutes or so. Technically I’m playing with my kids and getting alone time. Two birds, one semi-domesticated stone.
What is your least favorite household chore?
Just one? Laundry is the bane of my existance and I swear it breeds overnight like bunnies. I’m convinced that my laundry baskets will never ever be empty. And also- where do the socks disappear to between the washer and the dryer? Has anyone ever figured this out? I have a bag full of at least 75 lonely, mismatched, socks that have no mate. How does this happen?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Definitely a night owl. I used to wish that I was a morning person that could bounce out of bed at dark o’thirty and get a jump on the day. It’s never going to happen. Instead I drag myself out of bed, bleary eyed and incoherent, at the last possible minute every morning and then rush around like a crazy person feeling 3 steps behind at least until lunch. I rarely go to bed before 1am and usually it’s closer to 2am.
What side of the bed do you sleep on?
I sleep on whichever side is furthest from the door. You know, monsters and robbers and all that….I know, I just set feminism back 50 years. I’m okay with that. It’s better than being attacked by a monster in the middle of the night.
What’s your favorite color?
Yellow. No, green. No, maybe red. Purple? I can’t pick just one. I just love color. Probably yellow. Maybe.
How do you effectively manage a household with 5 kids?
Trial and error….emphasis on the error. Haha! Seriously though, it takes organization and scheduling. I have an unhealthy love of making lists which helps keep things running somewhat smoothly around here. Also, delegating is a necessity. The kids have chores and responsibilities that they are expected to do to help keep the house running efficiently.
What does Matt think about the stuff you share on the blog?
He thinks I’m hysterically funny, obviously. There’s a line in blogging, a line that separates the things that need to remain private from the things that are fair game for blog fodder. I have never crossed that line and if I think I’m skirting close to the line I ask Matt for his opinion before publishing the post.
Do you consider your household to be traditional (ie- traditional roles)?
I guess we are pretty traditional in our roles. Matt goes off to work every day and I stay home to care for the kids and the house. We sound downright 1950’s, don’t we? We split the housework pretty evenly though. I do the laundry because I am picky and have a whole laundry system in place. Matt does the yard work because I hate it. Childcare and kid related work is also split evenly. We are traditionally non-traditional.
Did you do infertility treatments to get pregnant?
No. We had unexplained infertility and opted not to proceed with any kind of medication or procedures. We went straight to foster care and adoption. We wanted a family and we didn’t care how we built it.
Do you keep in touch with the birthparents of your adopted sons?
No. Unfortunately it is not an option for us at this time. Our boys were adopted from foster care and there are safety concerns that we must consider.
Are you religious and do you go to church?
I was raised Catholic as was Matt. We have opted not to raise our children in the Catholic church. We are Christians and we attend a non-denominational church.
Do you consider your style of parenting to be more attachment or free range?
I think we are a fair mix of both. We have co-slept with 2 of our kids (one extended, one short term), I have breastfed and formula fed. We have never let a baby cry-it-out. We rarely utilize babysitters, preferring to spend time as a family. We give our kids more freedom as they get older and prove they can handle the privilege.
You’ve mentioned that you had rough pregnancies, what do you mean?
I had very difficult pregnancies. With Maia- I had a partial placental tear at 22 weeks, went into preterm labor at 28 weeks and developed pre-eclampsia at 32 weeks. Maia was born at 35 weeks 3 days after my fluid level was found to be very low. She was a healthy weight and was able to room in with me and we were discharged together. With Mase- I had Hyperemesis gravidarum that did not go away until the 19th week of my pregnancy. I went into preterm labor again at 28 weeks, then suffered through 6 weeks of the worst kidney infection I’ve ever had. My labor finally couldn’t be stopped any longer and Mase was born at 37 weeks on the dot. He was also healthy and discharged with me. With Zoey- I was in preterm labor again but it started earlier, at around 23 weeks. She was born at 36 weeks 3 days when they could no longer stop my labor. She was my biggest baby and also very healthy. It’s a good thing I’m done having babies, who knows what another pregnancy would bring.
How old were you when you got married?
We were both 19 years old when we tied the knot. Actually I turned 19 just 11 days before I got married. In retrospect that was not a great plan. Now Matt tries to squish both my birthday and our anniversary into one present. Note the use of the word “tries”.
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