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Being Intentional In 2014 {Resolutions & Goals}


Last year I made a list of 20 things I wanted to accomplish in 2013. I did pretty good at checking things off my list as I completed them. But I wanted to plan my 2014 a little differently. Honestly making a list of 20 things to do during the year is a lot of pressure in an already full and busy life. You know how I feel about checking things off my lists. Well my goal of creating more peace and harmony in my life is not really supported by a list of 20 things to get done during the year. 

I wanted to focus on the most important things in my life and focus my energy where it matters the most to me- my family, my home, and myself. Gasp, I said myself. I know, totally selfish right? But not really and I’m finally figuring that out. I took a long look at where most of my stress comes from and I can see that I’m the one causing my own stress. I’m over-scheduled, over-committed, and just plain over-tired. It’s my own fault that I feel so stressed out. Which also means that I’m the only one who can fix it. So I will. 

This year I’m not making resolutions or a checklist of things to get done so I can call the year successful when I’m writing my 2015 list of goals. I want to be intentional. In fact, that is going to be my word for the year.


I know it seems to be a big buzz word that gets thrown around by every person in the universe. I tried to think of a different word. I really tried. But I kept coming back to Intentional.

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it” – Henry David Thoreau

That’s the quote that sticks with me. I have it on a post it note sticking to my mirror in the bathroom. I see it every morning and every night. It reminds me to slow down, to think before I commit to something, to decide what is important in my life. It inspires me to be intentional in all things I do. It inspires me to carve out some much needed peace and harmony in my life. Much needed, y’all. The only way to do that is to focus my energy on what matters most. 

Focus on what matters the most.

Family: We plan to take at least 2 real family vacations in 2014 as well as a few smaller weekend trips. We also want to plan more family outings and do more fun things with the kids- like the aquarium that is set to open near us in the Spring, and the safari zoo park, and the big state zoo. We need to make those memories with the kids. I want to take more pictures of our life. I’ve been really bad this year with the camera- most of my pictures are on my iPhone which isn’t necessarily bad but I didn’t take enough of them. I am going to stop pushing the kids to try new activities and let them decide when and if they want to do something new. If they want a semester off from sports and activities I will encourage them take the break. We’re going to work on more quality family time- movie nights, weekly breakfasts on Sunday mornings, weeknight dinners around the table. We’ve been so busy over the last year that we haven’t had enough time to connect as a family. We’re also going to carve out time to do one-on-one dates with each of our kids this year.  

Home: I enjoy being organized. I can’t function at full speed when the house is disorganized and in disarray. It almost feels like my mind is as cluttered as my house sometimes. I want to continue my plan to keep the house uncluttered by donating a bag of items every month and being mindful of what things we bring into the house. I want to keep doing my monthly meal planning and also add some new recipes to the rotation. I would like to finish my redo of the master bathroom so the whole house will be done. The biggest thing we want to accomplish in 2014 is to get out of debt and stay out of debt. We’ve been on the debt roller coaster for years, it’s hard not to be with 5 kids, and we are tired of it. I hate worrying about how much money we owe. We want to focus on teaching our kids good habits for financial responsibility, establishing good credit, and living within your means. Those are super important life lessons that we need to focus more on now that are kids are getting older. Matt has a plan and we should be able to do it which will give us more of a cushion and less stress about paying the bills every month. 

Myself: I mentioned in my 2013 resolutions post that I spent the year learning to accept who I am. So this year is going to focus on being intentional with my time in order to create peace within myself. I’m an introvert. I’m going to stop forcing myself to participate in social things that give me anxiety. I’m going to stop spreading my time thin with activities that I don’t really enjoy. I’m going to start saying no to things that don’t fit in my schedule or my goals. I like being at home and I’m going to stop comparing myself to others who don’t feel the same way. I’m not a social butterfly and it’s time to stop trying to force myself to be one. I want to read more books- even if they are the smutty romance kind. I want to take better care of myself- both the inside and the outside. I’d like to continue doing the elliptical for 20 minutes at least 3-4 times a week. I want to get more sleep and I want to keep working on making my diet healthier. I want to find that perfect hairstyle and actually make time to maintain it. I really want to update my wardrobe- with something other than jeans, yoga pants, and comfy tops. I want to keep blogging but not let it take over my life, even if that means I don’t get 5 new posts up every week. I’ve already cut way back on social media- I’m rarely on twitter anymore because it just became too much of a time suck for me and I deleted my personal Facebook page awhile ago. 

So the word for 2014 is intentional. I will be intentional with my time, with my commitments, and with my family. At the end of the year I want to look back and know that we had the best year possible. 

 What are your goals for the new year?



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