web analytics

When My Blog Grows Up

Image Credit

I’ve been thinking recently about how much I’ve enjoyed being back in the blogging world and how much I truly did miss it during my hiatus (aka- journey into PPD Crazytown). When I first started blogging back in 2008 it was just to get the grandparents off my back about pictures of the kids. Then I found a community of other moms who got it, who understood and related to me. I think that’s what I missed most of all during my time away.

I’ve also been thinking about the reasons why I blog.What purpose does it serve for me? What do I get out of it? Why is it such an important part of my life? I briefly pondered not returning to the blogosphere at all, of just shutting down my old blog and moving on to a different phase of my life. In fact, I had made that decision. It seemed as soon as I did make that decision, I started getting itchy fingers that wanted to type again. But during my hiatus, I discovered some of the reasons that I blog.

Why I Blog

*Blogging reminds me not to take life so seriously, to laugh at myself and learn from my mistakes.

*Blogging provided me a surprising support system when I needed one last year. I got countless emails and comments from concerned readers. It’s a community.

*Blogging forces me out of my comfort zone. I do things that I might not normally do because I saw it on someone else’s blog, or because I think it would be fun to blog about. It pushes me to be bolder.

*Blogging gives me a voice. It gives me somewhere to tell my story, to be myself. It gives me a place where I don’t have to fit in, I don’t have to worry about what others think of me. Because this is my place.

*Blogging is a tangible record for my kids. As alarming as that sounds considering the title of my blog, I think my kids will enjoy looking back one day at what our life was like. After all, they are the inspiration behind the mama.

Of course, all those thoughts led me down the path of thinking about where I want my blog to go. What do I envision for the future of my little home in the blogosphere? What are my goals?  What do I want out of my blog? So I made a list, I really do love my lists. Mr.McHunky swears I suffer from some rare form of List Making OCD.

*Community. I want to be more social, even if only on Twitter and Facebook. Ha! I’ve been making a serious effort to get out there more, to participate in linky parties, to engage on Twitter and comment on more blogs. And I’ve “met” some great new people and readers who I feel drawn to, not in a creepy stalker-ish kind of way but a “hey, she gets it” kind of a way. I’d love to have some guest posts to share some love with my new friends. I’m doing a monthly post to show off some of my favorite blog posts that I’ve read that month for the same reason. It’s a community and you only get out of it what you put into it.

*Consistency. I’ve been doing a good job of that and I want to continue on this streak. I am a planner at heart and that was one thing I struggled with on my old blog, not planning out my posts. I was a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants blogger and I am way too scatterbrained for that. I am focusing on being more professional. See next item.

*Professional. I need to treat the blog like more than just a hobby. I spend a great chunk of my time during the week working on blog business so it only makes sense to treat as a professional venture. I’ve joined BlogHer ads as you can see from the sidebar. I’m not expecting to get rich here but a little extra that I can put towards Cam’s private school tuition would be fabulous. Along the same lines, I’ve added some great sponsor & ad spots. I have some awesome giveaways coming up in April, courtesy of my blog sponsors and I’m so excited about it!

*Focus. My blog doesn’t have a true niche. I blog about life- my life, my family’s life. So I write about a wide variety of topics- recipes, parenting, marriage, home projects, idiots that make me mad…it’s a mixed bag around here. I like that and it won’t change but I do want to make sure I’m writing about the things that are important to me. I want to do a few different types of series- Postpartum Depression, Family Management, Clutter Solutions, and more. I’ve started a blog planner to keep me on track. Oh yeah, that’s another series I want to do- about blog planning. See why I need a blog planner? Ha!

*Authentic. That’s the word of the year. I want to be real. I never want anyone to leave my blog feeling discouraged. I’m not a perfect mom, I don’t have a perfect family and I’m not always happy. Life happens. I don’t want to harp on the negative stuff but I’m not going to hide it either. There are plenty of evenings when I’m 3 seconds away from hiding in the dark closet chugging wine out of a straw. That’s real folks!

Linking up for the Inspirational Blog Hop:



Share This

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02073596747919703050 Heather

    great post. i am right there with you, no specific niche, i just enjoy documenting my life and the community of bloggers.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04482666724279668233 Ashley

    Yay!!!! So glad you linked up!! I loved that you said your blog is a “mixed bag” :) I sometimes feel like that too! Have a great evening!

  • http://quasiagitato.com/ quasiagitato.com

    I recently took an unanticipated break from blogging, too. During which I also considered not returning. But here we are. For me, the outlet and the connections are too important to give up just yet. Maybe ever.

    I loved what you said about it helping you keep your sense of humour and perspective. A big fat ditto from this mama! So desperately needed it, too.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09049725790375843473 Leighannn

    Being authentic is so important! So glad you came back and found a community who understands you. That’s why I started too

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I never want someone to feel like I’m faking it, or putting on a show. Although if they’re a regular reader then they definitely won’t think that. Ha! My 4 year old told the cable guy that all mommy’s friends live in the computer the other day when I was fussing that the internet kept going down. Ha!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03025452499785362095 The Mays

    I love your goal to remain authentic. Without that, you lose the feeling of community and then what are all of those hours for anyway?

    I’m new to your blog, and I think we’re going to get along just fine. I have also made a stop in PPD Crazytown and sometimes I discover that my luggage appears to still be on layover there!

    - ChiMomWriter/It Builds Character

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Exactly. I spend a lot of time in the blogging community- if you could see my house then you’d know that truer words have never been typed. Ha! We’re 2 days from people showing up with Hazmat suits.

      Some days I feel like my luggage got stuck back in PPD Crazytown too. Like today. And yesterday. And probably tomorrow.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00255686424178324749 Wombat Central

    Great post! Glad to find other who can’t really fit their blog into a category. I’m right there with you. Whatever I feel like sharing that day is my niche. ;)

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I kind of feel like “MOM” should be a category that encompasses all the other ones too. I mean, mom does it all: cooking, organizing, cleaning, kid raising, etc. I can’t just write about one aspect, I’d get bored.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08696399391230455491 Anna @mommy_padawan

    I love your reasons for why you blog and am so glad you decided to keep your blog going! I’m totally impressed by you getting all organized as well. I’m a total fly by the seat of my pants blogger, for now anyway. I think your blog is very authentic, that’s why I can’t stay away :) Great post!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08696399391230455491 Anna @mommy_padawan

    I love your reasons for why you blog and am so glad you decided not to give it up! The community and support out there is incredible. I think the reasons I started my blog and the reasons I write now are totally different. You may have just inspired one of my posts :) I’m impressed that you’re getting all organized too. I’m totally fly by the seat of my pants, for now anyway. Great post!

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I know what you mean- my original reasons for blogging and where I am now are polar opposites. I like to inspire posts, as long as they aren’t the ones that call for people to storm the gates with pitchforks. Ha!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05381279330033574052 Galit Breen

    I love the way that you wove your journey and your future!

    And authentic? Is a perfect word. Perfect.

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Wow, thank you so much Galit. That means a lot.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09552078658646677335 The Woven Moments

    Niche Smiche.

    I’m just glad to have found you.

    Thanks for linking up!

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Thank you! Niche Smiche, I love that. Ha!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07886118636402604168 Sweaty

    You know what, I’m a “fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants” type of blogger myself too! Nice to meet ya, friend! ;) It’s funny how I’m such a planner in everything else, but when it comes to writing, I have to do it spontaneously (or at the last minute–I know! I know!).

    Thanks for celebrating our blogversary and linking up with Missy and us!

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I am the same way. I plan everything, right down to the last detail. I drive my family insane. Yet my blogging is all over the place. I am trying to change but it’s hard. I get distracted by all the other great blogs, or twitter, or facebook…and oh look, there’s cake…

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00662949489653215361 Missy | Literal Mom

    I’m so happy you linked up! And so happy you “came back” from your hiatus. You have a voice and a message. And you reach people.

    And I truly believe that some of the blogs without a “true niche” are the best ones because of the variety they bring. So keep on keeping on!

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Thank you Missy. I hope I can reach just one woman who is in the same place that I found myself. It’s all about paying it forward.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11813486614826802548 Karah @ thespacebetweenblog

    Such great goals! Thank you so much for linking up, sorry it has taken me so long to come by to check them out!

    As long as you’re having fun and making friends…everything else is gravy. :)

    Happy to be a new follower.
    Karah @ thespacebetweenblog

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I know how time can get away from you, look how long it’s taken me to respond to comments. I’m hanging my head in shame.

      I have made some great new friends since my return to blogging and I’m so happy I came back!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07848936864799611251 Cassie @ Primitive & Proper

    i love your goals- i think focus can be broad though, too, and that is ok! at least i hope it is because sometimes i am all over the map! :)
    thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I like the blogs that are a little bit of everything. Maybe because that’s how I blog too. Ha!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13244682506329000538 Linda @ it all started with paint

    Oh, your authenticity shines through and through! You had me at your blog’s title …

    And now I’m going to be a serious dork — but the thought that you read my blog and that I inspired you makes me so very, very happy! It brightened up what has turned into a bit of a nightmare-ish weekend for me.

    So thank you for sharing and thank you for linking up ….

    :)

    Linda

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Oh Linda, thank you. I’m extremely late on responding to comments because of the plague that has descended on my household. But your comment made me smile, thank you so much!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10978033016895948863 Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms

    I appreciate this. I think you just organized our blog, too. So thank you! ;) Hope we can be authentic together because one of the best things about blogging is the community. Ellen

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I take payment in the form of wine or cookies. Or both. Ha!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08030986993835268409 Wendi Taylor

    Psst… if you want to make money with your blog. Kill the unnecessary scripts (anti right-clicking, autoplay music, etc.). That makes people use script-blocking programs, which also block your ads, and cost you revenue.

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Thanks for the tip Wendi! You always have a good one for me!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02743224902306298329 Leah Cooper-Prockno

    I think these are awesome goals, and I’ve also been thinking about, making some kind of blog plan, I just have to find a way of actually following through with it. I’m great at making schedules and lists, just not so hot at the follow through. I am looking forward to you PPD series , though I’m finally through with that part , of my life , I know how lonely it can be and would love to have resources to help women who are going through it.

    Your newest linky follower ~ Leah

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I make tons of lists, then I lose them or forget to check them. Sigh…

      The PPD series is coming shortly.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14887294003610943300 Emily

    You sound like the same kind of mom as me, and I think we have a lot of the same blog goals. Being authentic and professional are important to me too. Keep it real!

    I’m adding myself to your cult of kool-aid drinkers :-)

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I look at the blogs that I love to read and one thing that draws me to them is the blogger doesn’t try to be perfect. I like reading about mom’s who are like me! Not the ones that I’ll never live up to.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06789141075935009456 DGMommy Tamara

    I think we all go through periods of “Why am I blogging?” I disappeared for a while too, but have been happier than ever since my return and I love the direction my blog is heading. It is growing up! I love your blog, your honesty and I’m very happy you’re staying in the blogosphere. :)

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I needed the break. I needed to re-evaluate what I wanted out of my blog. I think of the first blog as kind of my starter blog now. That makes this one the grown up blog.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01451238626991674963 thistlewoodfarm

    Thanks so much for joining the party! You had me at your blog introduction. I truly appreciate your sense of humor and your authenticity.

    blessings,
    karianne

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Thank you Karianne. I’m keeping it real around here.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07374655411728383631 Eclectically Vintage

    Love the not taking yourself too seriously and I can see I’m gonna love your sense of humor!

    Blog about what you love and you’ll attract people with similar mind sets.

    So glad you joined our link party and thrilled to have been the 100th person to have drank your kool-aid!
    Kelly

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      Thank you Kelly. If I took myself seriously I would cry a lot. Ha! And yay for #100! I’m so glad I found your linky party, it gave me the kick in the pants I needed to get some of these thoughts written down.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13181569922751252054 Brett Minor

    Great post. I probably need to consider some of those things. I love writing my blog. I get a thrill when I see my numbers jump and get new followers, but have not put a lot of thought into where I want this to go.

    Thank you for the things to think about.

    • http://www.blogger.com/profile/04968250671087385396 Delilah Love

      I guess it was about time I really figured it out. I’ve been blogging for 4 years, ’bout time I got a clue. Ha!